17 April 2020 - Competition

Competition - Elizabeth McIlwraith

I’ve been noticing competition arising in me during this lockdown it spills into comparison too. When I see others sharing their gifts and offering their amazing skills it sparks something in me. Is the negative side of competition wanting to be better? Getting the most likes or comments and then comes comparison. Comparing ourselves to others is one of the greatest forms of self-abandonment. How could I possibly compare myself to another? How could I even compete? We are all so wonderfully different, so unique, we are incomparable. Competing with others is a lack and fear based mentality, the idea there isn’t enough to go around. Someone has to win leaving someone the loser. I like to feel inspired by others to be sparked alive into my essence where from that place I grow and shine, in my own fullness, my own expression, not in competition.

And what about sports? Well, I guess that’s the whole point right? Someone has to win someone has to lose.. is competition fun?

It might sound hippy and airy fairy to say I think we are all winners.

Training and pushing yourself are essential to growth but when it is measured against someone else’s growth and success it has the ability to distort our own sense of worth.

I don’t like to compete, although I find myself doing it.

Been driven to be better.

Running on fear and lack.

Do we really need winners and losers?

Is the world really that black and white? Is there room for more?

I want to learn new things, to be inspired and to push myself but more in a gentle way where I am trying to be “better” than I was yesterday, that I can do.

I had a teacher at school that used to say….

“There are two types of people in this world, winners and losers… and you my friend are a loser”

We used to laugh of course and my daughter has heard me say that to her a few times [as a joke]

I truly believe there is enough for us all, it’s not every man/ women for themselves.

It can’t just be a winner/ loser type of deal?